I stumbled upon your writings through notes and this is the first piece I read. Drawn to you mother to mother. I too had my first child very young (21) and second in my mid 20s. I too have felt the waves of grief throughout. As well as the belief I should be able to do it all. It is ingrained in us from girlhood after all: to be everything for everyone.
I feel you and hear you! Being Mother in this society, at this time, is layered with so many emotions and much guilt and shame. I've journeyed and journalled with these things throughout, questioning myself, wondering if I'm the only one.
And there's so much in this! It is beautiful and necessary to do the inner work for ourselves and our children. It is also necessary to turn outwards and learn more about how and why society isn't working for mother's. We are expected to give and give without getting anything in return. This plays out in community, with our partners and even with our own children. This too is part (perhaps the majority) of why it is so hard. We need to mother in community, yet most of us don't have this. So, yes mama, it is hard, and it is not your fault!
I did most of the mothering journey alone, as a single mum. My children are older now. They are almost women. Only now do I feel I'm figuring this all out in a way that supports me as a mother and woman, as well as for my family! Writing has been a huge part of supporting me. Community and learning to care for myself came next.
I'm now in my late 30's and pregnant with my 3rd to a man I love and who supports me. I feel ready for this child in a way I didn't with my first 2. I feel supported internally and externally.
I've also just begun sharing my writing. After hiding it away, feeling mother shame at wanting to do something 'self indulgent' when really I was longing for something for myself. Sharing is the next step for me to create more community and support other mothers to do the same. I'm writing for me, for Mother Earth and for Mother's, all of us! My first book is in the making, from this intention.
Thank you for sharing your journey and I look forward to reading more and supporting more. Please reach out and read some of my writings if you feel called: mother to mother.
I was very touched by your text as I am currently pregnant with my first child. I am 22 years old and life up until now hasn’t been easy, although I’ve been lucky to have a beautiful childhood. I know that this is right and I am excited to embark on this journey. The father of my child is the man I want to be with. But I’m scared. And I’m hurting. I think it is only now that I’m realizing that what I am experiencing is grief.
It is scary, because now it is not just about me anymore. I have to trust that I am ready to do this, even though so much seems to be out of place or not at all like how imagined it would be. Dreams and ideas are dying. But I think that these are ideas made up by my mind as I’ve tried to navigate through a rough world. They don’t feel like they belonged to me in the first place. There is nothing I would have wanted as much as this.
Thank you for sharing your words of wisdom. From one future mother to another, I am grateful for your courage and strength. You are brave to share your story and to write so vulnerably from your heart. I wish to find the courage to share what is in my heart as well. Your way of words inspire me✨
Entering into motherhood for the first (and second time) was also filled with the deaths of many things for me. Motherhood is forever, we can never undo the many changes it ushers into our lives...but what I've found in my journey so far is that the beauty of mothering itself has inspired so much more life to take root within me. The grief has proven to be such powerful medicine, and in truth it has opened me to feel more, to love more, to grow more.
Thank you so much for sharing a piece of yourself here mama, it was a lovely gift to read your words! I'm praying so many blessings over your life as your path of motherhood unfolds <3
I stumbled upon your writings through notes and this is the first piece I read. Drawn to you mother to mother. I too had my first child very young (21) and second in my mid 20s. I too have felt the waves of grief throughout. As well as the belief I should be able to do it all. It is ingrained in us from girlhood after all: to be everything for everyone.
I feel you and hear you! Being Mother in this society, at this time, is layered with so many emotions and much guilt and shame. I've journeyed and journalled with these things throughout, questioning myself, wondering if I'm the only one.
And there's so much in this! It is beautiful and necessary to do the inner work for ourselves and our children. It is also necessary to turn outwards and learn more about how and why society isn't working for mother's. We are expected to give and give without getting anything in return. This plays out in community, with our partners and even with our own children. This too is part (perhaps the majority) of why it is so hard. We need to mother in community, yet most of us don't have this. So, yes mama, it is hard, and it is not your fault!
I did most of the mothering journey alone, as a single mum. My children are older now. They are almost women. Only now do I feel I'm figuring this all out in a way that supports me as a mother and woman, as well as for my family! Writing has been a huge part of supporting me. Community and learning to care for myself came next.
I'm now in my late 30's and pregnant with my 3rd to a man I love and who supports me. I feel ready for this child in a way I didn't with my first 2. I feel supported internally and externally.
I've also just begun sharing my writing. After hiding it away, feeling mother shame at wanting to do something 'self indulgent' when really I was longing for something for myself. Sharing is the next step for me to create more community and support other mothers to do the same. I'm writing for me, for Mother Earth and for Mother's, all of us! My first book is in the making, from this intention.
Thank you for sharing your journey and I look forward to reading more and supporting more. Please reach out and read some of my writings if you feel called: mother to mother.
I was very touched by your text as I am currently pregnant with my first child. I am 22 years old and life up until now hasn’t been easy, although I’ve been lucky to have a beautiful childhood. I know that this is right and I am excited to embark on this journey. The father of my child is the man I want to be with. But I’m scared. And I’m hurting. I think it is only now that I’m realizing that what I am experiencing is grief.
It is scary, because now it is not just about me anymore. I have to trust that I am ready to do this, even though so much seems to be out of place or not at all like how imagined it would be. Dreams and ideas are dying. But I think that these are ideas made up by my mind as I’ve tried to navigate through a rough world. They don’t feel like they belonged to me in the first place. There is nothing I would have wanted as much as this.
Thank you for sharing your words of wisdom. From one future mother to another, I am grateful for your courage and strength. You are brave to share your story and to write so vulnerably from your heart. I wish to find the courage to share what is in my heart as well. Your way of words inspire me✨
Oh Elin, I am so moved by your words!
Entering into motherhood for the first (and second time) was also filled with the deaths of many things for me. Motherhood is forever, we can never undo the many changes it ushers into our lives...but what I've found in my journey so far is that the beauty of mothering itself has inspired so much more life to take root within me. The grief has proven to be such powerful medicine, and in truth it has opened me to feel more, to love more, to grow more.
Thank you so much for sharing a piece of yourself here mama, it was a lovely gift to read your words! I'm praying so many blessings over your life as your path of motherhood unfolds <3
Sending much love,
Sydney
Beautiful 🌹
Thank you so much love!<3